These
comments are taken from www.pupiline.net a site set
up by students for students however I feel that some of the insights are useful given
their simplicty
Mark (10) was
being bullied. When he released the emotional fear around the whole situation he had what
he describes as "a personal face to face talk with the lad". Mark now considers
the person who bullied him as a good friend
Although we cannot guarantee
you will never be bullied.
There are some things that
you can do, that will make you less likely to be bullied:
What to do:
 | Remember: You
don't deserve to be bullied |
| Talk about it to someone who
will listen |
| Ignore the bullies themselves
completely - The best thing to bullies about bullying people is seeing that they
are hurting the victim. That's what gives them the kick. Simply learn to ignore them. If
you shut them out and carry on, they will eventually get bored of not getting a response,
and leave you alone. It's a tried and tested method- proved by my experience! Try it, it
really works |
| Tell a teacher you
trust |
| Stick to facts and
bring a witness |
| Defend yourself only if necessary |
| Stay in a group |
| Be firm, if they
pressure you shout "NO"; it'll get attention |
What not to do:
| DO NOT IGNORE THE BULLYING -
MAKE A NOISE ABOUT IT |
| Don't confront the
bully |
| Don't fight back
except to defend yourself - it only makes it worse |
| Don't get in a
slanging match |
| If you are scared or intimidated get
away and get help |
| Don't fight to keep your stuff - you
are more important! |
Other Advice:
| Stand up for yourself -
do not become a doormat - if someone teases you do not stand for it; tell your teacher,
friends or anyone. It does help. |
| Speak to other people who
have been bullied, they will know what to do. |
| If your teachers do not listen or take
action make a row - you have a right - |
| Don't let anyone
fobb you off with the idea that your problems are not as significant as anyone
elses! Cos they are far from it - everyone counts! Do not be
afraid to show your individuality. If people around you at the moment don't like it,
people around the corner will! |
| Bullies (although it
doesn't seem like it) are only confident from the outside. They
are cowards! |
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